Z: So, she has slept with 5 guys
Me: So? Whats your no?
Me: Thats IT???? Really, after all the trying… it is just 3?
Z: Well, Yeah
Btw, the no 3 is despite all the trying and thinking about getting laid for every awake moment.
I got thinking about promiscuity. How do I define it? Can someone be judged as promiscuous? What is the no? 3, 5, 10 or more?
I remember this dialogue from the movie ‘Girl Interrupted’ …
“How many guys do I have to sleep with to be considered promiscuous?”… “Ten eight five”… “How many girls would a guy have to sleep with to be considered promiscuous”… “Ten ? ? ?”
If a person becomes sexually active at say 20 (it is a reasonable age) and gets married at 26 (very reasonable age for both men and women)… and if he/she sleeps with 1 person per year… he/she would have slept with 6 men/women by the time he/she gets married. Maybe more if the marriage is delayed.
Imagine telling a guy you have met for arranged marriage that you have slept with 6 guys… the most broad/open minded person will have a BIG problem with it. When it comes to love, there is a choice of not talking about it.
I have no moral stand. I don’t think there is anything wrong with one night stands. As long as both the people involved are single and ready to mingle. After all, sexual experimentation is part of the growing up process.
And yet, as Indians we are fixed on nos. 3, 5, 10. We believe that sex has to be linked to love… even when thats the case, how many first relationships work out? And isn’t sexual compatibility part of the deal? What if you love someone but are not sexually compatible? For me, its a deal breaker.
I have this friend, I call a commitment guy… someone who is decent, courteous, harmless… he has already been in 5 relationships. If someone like him who believes in morals very strongly, has such a high no… what chance is there for someone who believes in casual sex?
I guess there is no such as promiscuity… not in my dictionary anyway.